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Amazon sells Big Daddy’s Rules-check it out!

Some guys will say they don’t read because it’s boring. But, I’d like to find a man who isn’t the least bit intrigued by Big Daddy’s Rules.

Unlike that parenting book written by some professional, or specialist, with a list of degrees a mile long, which ultimately gives them the right to tell you how to raise your kids, this is straight out of the mouth of a dad. One who doesn’t pull any punches (well, unless you get fresh with his daughter I bet). He tells it like it is and isn’t afraid to make rules at home and lay down the law.

Steve’s book is about how he does parenting his way, and why it works. Think you’re a pushover this month?  Read this and next month you’ll be a ‘Big Daddy’ in control.

A little rough sometimes, but so is he, Schirripa takes fathering to a new (but old fashioned) level. One I think I’m quite familiar with from my own father.

I’m not much for pushing books written  by celebrities (Schirripa was Bobby on the HBO series The Sopranos and  the father onThe Secret Life of the American Teenager) but this is written by a big Italian guy who says no to his kids and who uses the words ‘common sense and parenting’ in the same sentence. I can’t help but support him.

And, he makes me look like a pussy cat.

When you’re afraid to be the boss at home, it will hinder the lessons your kids should be learning. So, buck up, grab this book and get ready for some light reading (with maybe a hint of heavy language).
My favorite rule in the book?
The first rule is, I make the rules. I’m your father, not your friend. But I’m the best friend you’re ever going to have because nobody is going to care about you the way I care about you.’ – Steve Schirripa

Fun Friday: My Amazon Reviews

photo Shopping Woman Carrying Shopping Bags courtesy of David Castillo Dominici at freedigitalphotos.net
I HATE SHOPPING. 
I might have mentioned that before…
Unless of course it’s for shoes, then I’m okay with it-
 (as long as I can find my size…I have small feet-ugh).
 
ANYWAYS, occasionally I do Amazon shopping since it’s easier than going to the stores.

Christmas is generally my favorite time to use Amazon.com to shop, but my second favorite reason is I use it for buying (or reviewing) books before I buy them.

I’m not going to spend all day plugging Amazon because I’m pretty sure they do just fine on their own, but I will say this, that just like Netflix, I love having products suggested to me per my likes/dislikes and purchases, and I also appreciate reading reviews on products from others.

So, here are a few reviews I have out there on Amazon (none on shoes sorry)

As I have the time, I will enter a few reviews each month and post them on the Family Matters for you to check out… if I run out maybe you’ll just have to share yours!

 
Have a Fun Friday!

My Hunger Games Movie Review

 

Opened in theaters March 23, 2012
The Hunger Game, The Hunger Games, The Hunger Games……

Sigh.

What do I say about The Hunger Games?

This book sounded pretty bad when my daughter first mentioned the story to me.

She is fourteen, and she and her friends love this book.
I know, the first thing that comes to mind is child violence.

Since that’s what everyone is focusing on, I’m not surprised.

I saw the movie and I have to say that I think there were more sick adults in this movie torturing teens, than teens hurting one another. There were a couple of places where I cringed about the behavior and violence displayed, but honestly after hearing all of the negative hype, there wasn’t nearly as much as I’d expected.

If you ask me, most of the kids in this movie were simply trying to survive. Three of the kids did enjoy it more than they should have- I’d call those kids the ‘bullies’ because they enjoyed hurting others.

The biggest shock I had, was that the majority of the violence and torture against kids actually came from adults in the movie. They were starving families and children, holding a lottery where a couple of kids from each district would get picked each year to enter into a full-fledged hunt in the woods, while they face ‘adult-created’ dangers…think Survivor, except the point is to kill all the kids…and there is only supposed to be one winner (one live human being) in the end. (Again, a game created by adults.)

The kids are the pawns in this movie, and in most cases are just trying to stay alive so that they can get back and be with their families. The main character Katniss, actually tried to stay alive by avoiding any confrontation whatsoever, and thoroughly tried avoiding killing anyone until a little girl she was allies with was in danger and she had to protect her.


Bottom line, I invited my daughter to see this movie because she loved the book. I saved the date for the Premiere six months in advance. I wanted to share with her what she enjoys, I wanted to know what all the hype was about and I did not want to judge her or the things she is interested in. My job is to know my child. I don’t have to agree with what she likes, but I do have to accept and love her and by going with her, rather than forbidding her, I earned her love and respect…instead of push her away.

We discussed quite a bit of the movie afterwards and I should mention that her favorite parts weren’t any of the killings….

I am a previous home schooling parent and still choose to be very selective about what my kids view, but, as someone said on the radio this morning calling into Q104-Cleveland said, ‘If the child has already read the book, it’s too late, they’ve already been exposed…and, even then, the movie isn’t anything compared to the book when it comes to violence and description’.

There are heinous crimes happening all over the world. Some recently happened in my communities back yard. They were covered in the news, they are discussed in school, and there’s no way to shelter them from it. Just allowing kids to read the newspaper and watch the news can be just as wrong as taking them to see a movie like this one. Sheltering them from these things is impossible.

Another defending note about kids who like watching things which are not all roses and sweetness;
I am a long-time Stephen King, Jaws and Saw fan…I grew up on horror movies and still like them as an adult…it did not make me a murderer. And I doubt that because my child watched the Hunger Games she will become one either.


You decide, the movie is still in theaters.

See the trailer.


An additional note: It’s important to point out that the rating on this movie is PG-13. This does not mean it is ‘acceptable for all thirteen year olds’. It means that at about age 13, some children (with Parental Guidance) can handle most of the content and material in the movie. I suggest that it not be seen without an adult and a discussion ought to follow.

I’d actually be more concerned about the movie and sitcom trailers which played prior to the movie itself…. the sexual content and violence was way more inappropriate than what was shown in this movie.


Did you and/or your child read the book or see the movie?
What was your opinion?

What Can Happen To Good Parents

What if you are the best parent on the planet and you do everything in your power to help your child succeed, but they still fail?

What if, after all the baseball games, dance recitals and brand name clothes, they make a choice which in their eyes, is smart, but you view it as throwing their life away?


Does that mean you were a bad parent after all?

I recently read a novel called ‘Not My Daughter’ by Barbara Delinsky. (Watch this video about the book)

It’s a very clear picture of what could happen, even if you are the best of parents.

The story is about a group of mothers, whose daughters make a pact to get pregnant. The least likely of them at the head of the plan. When word gets out, the town considers only one mother a true disgrace, because although she is a well respected principal, they consider her past to blame.

Read this book and get an inside view of how just when you think you’ve done everything right, your child can think of one more thing which they find to be more brilliant…until it actually begins to unravel and they start to feel the repercussions of their choices.

Serious, emotionally charged, but heartwarming… this book teaches the reader, that  no matter how good a parent you are, your child has a mind of his/her own and can disappoint with their choices, and that no matter how much you think you love your children through their mistakes, they can sometimes test that strength and commitment of being their parent more than you’ve ever imagined…

Wonderful read!!!

Sick Days

You never wish for your child to be sick….but I do occasionally wish for a sick-day so that I don’t have to go to work, and can relax and get caught up on some things at home.

So, to my  excitement (sort of) a bought of high fevers went through our house recently, and two of my three kids got it.

The night the first one came down sick, I thought to myself, ‘I’m sad she’s sick, but so happy for a day off from work! Now I can get some things done around here..’

Not sure what I was thinking with that….

Cooking, cleaning, administering meds and sanitizing everything like crazy to avoid germ-spreading. Add keeping my child company because she was bored….there was absolutely no-thing getting done around here.

Luckily, everyone is feeling better now! So it ‘s back to work!!!

Thank goodness!

…It’s too much more work staying home!!!

A great children’s book is: Usborne Books’ ‘Going to the Doctor’
(See mom at the end of the book!)